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Some of the research
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Every piece of advice in TwoAligned's reports and cheat sheets is tied to published research. This is some of that research: 207 sample research articles in 21 topics, each with a one-line summary and a link to the original. We keep adding new research as it is published.
A study shows what tends to happen across many couples, not what will happen in yours. Where a finding is a link rather than proof of cause, we say “linked to”. Last checked: 5 November 2026.
Brain & body in conflict
Even mild, uncontrollable stress causes a rapid, dramatic loss of the prefrontal cortex's abilities — the part of the brain used for reasoning, planning and self-control.
Arnsten (2009), Nature Reviews Neuroscience · Review (animal + human research) · Strongest evidence
Note: Much of the mechanism work is in animals; the human effect on reasoning is well supported.
Across 48 brain-imaging studies, reappraising a situation (changing how you interpret it) switched on cognitive-control regions and turned down the amygdala.
Buhle et al. (2014), Cerebral Cortex — meta-analysis · Meta-analysis, 48 fMRI studies · Strongest evidence
Putting feelings into words ('I feel hurt') reduced amygdala activity and increased activity in a prefrontal region that regulates emotion.
Lieberman et al. (2007), Psychological Science · fMRI experiment · Solid evidence
Couples whose bodies were most physiologically aroused during conflict (heart rate, sweat, etc.) showed the biggest drop in marital satisfaction over the next 3 years.
Levenson & Gottman (1985), Journal of Personality and Social Psychology · Longitudinal lab study (small sample, 19 couples followed up) · Early or small study
Note: Small early study; the pattern fits later, larger research.
Gottman reports that above roughly 100 beats per minute people struggle to take in what their partner is saying, and the body needs about 20 minutes to settle.
Gottman Institute — physiological self-soothing · Clinical research summary · Early or small study
Note: Practitioner summary, not a single peer-reviewed paper.
In 300 middle-aged and older couples, discussing a disagreement raised blood pressure, cardiac output and 'fight-or-flight' nervous activity far more than working on a problem together.
Smith et al. (2009), Psychology and Aging · Lab study, 300 couples · Solid evidence
Couples observed to be hostile and dominant with little warmth had more coronary artery calcification (early heart disease), even after controlling for medical risk factors.
Smith et al. (2012), Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology · Observational, CT scans · Solid evidence
In 42 married couples, wounds healed more slowly after a conflict discussion than after a supportive one; consistently hostile couples healed at 60% of the rate of low-hostility couples.
Kiecolt-Glaser et al. (2005), Archives of General Psychiatry · Crossover hospital study · Solid evidence
Higher marital conflict was linked to less healthy night-time blood-pressure dipping, especially in women (military couples).
Troxel et al. (2017), Health Psychology · Observational · Solid evidence
On a day of conflict, having a stressed partner was linked to unhealthier cortisol patterns — especially when the couple used more negative and fewer positive behaviours.
Shrout et al. (2020), Psychoneuroendocrinology · Lab + biomarker study · Solid evidence
A review of 126 studies (72,000+ people) found better marital quality is linked to better health, lower mortality risk and calmer heart responses during conflict.
Robles et al. (2014), Psychological Bulletin — meta-analysis · Meta-analysis, 126 studies · Strongest evidence
Note: Effect sizes are small (similar to diet-health links) and mostly correlational.
The neurovisceral integration model links heart-rate variability to the prefrontal brain systems that inhibit impulsive reactions.
Thayer & Lane (2000), Journal of Affective Disorders · Theoretical model · Early or small study
Calming the body: breathing, pace, touch
A systematic review of 15 studies found slow breathing (under 10 breaths a minute) increased heart-rate variability and was linked to reduced arousal, anxiety, depression, anger and confusion.
Zaccaro et al. (2018), Frontiers in Human Neuroscience — systematic review · Systematic review, 15 studies · Strongest evidence
In a randomised study, 5 minutes a day of 'cyclic sighing' (long exhales) for a month improved mood and lowered breathing rate more than mindfulness meditation.
Balban et al. (2023), Cell Reports Medicine · Randomised trial · Strongest evidence
One session of deep, slow breathing increased vagal (calming) activity and reduced anxiety in both younger and older adults — even more in older adults.
Magnon et al. (2021), Scientific Reports · Experiment, 47 adults · Solid evidence
12 weeks of slow breathing reduced anxiety; making the exhale longer than the inhale did not add a significant extra benefit.
Birdee et al. (2023), Complementary Therapies in Medicine · Randomised trial · Strongest evidence
Across 24 studies (484 people), heart-rate-variability biofeedback training produced a large reduction in stress and anxiety.
Goessl et al. (2017), Psychological Medicine — meta-analysis · Meta-analysis, 24 studies · Strongest evidence
Speaking slowly produced significantly smaller rises in blood pressure and heart rate than speaking fast (111 cardiac patients).
Thomas & Friedmann (1994), Journal of Cardiovascular Nursing · Experiment, 111 cardiac patients · Solid evidence
Note: Participants were heart patients.
After recalling something that made them angry, women who were given a distraction recovered faster physically and had less anger and rumination.
Neumann et al. (2004), Health Psychology · Randomised experiment, 80 women · Solid evidence
Couples who held hands and hugged before a stressful task had smaller rises in blood pressure and heart rate (183 adults).
Grewen et al. (2003), Behavioral Medicine · Experiment, 183 adults · Solid evidence
In experiments, touching before and during a conflict discussion improved couples' conflict behaviour and buffered stress.
Jakubiak & Feeney (2019), Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin · Experiments · Solid evidence
Thinking patterns, autopilot & self-talk
Unhappy spouses tend to explain their partner's behaviour in a negative light ('he did it because he doesn't care'); evidence suggests these explanations can shape satisfaction.
Bradbury & Fincham (1990), Psychological Bulletin — review · Review · Strongest evidence
In newlyweds followed for 18 months, negative explanations for a partner's behaviour predicted lower satisfaction later — and lower satisfaction predicted more negative explanations: a two-way spiral.
Fincham, Harold & Gano-Phillips (2000), Journal of Family Psychology · Longitudinal · Solid evidence
Trying to push a thought away often backfires, helping to produce the very state of mind you wanted to avoid.
Wenzlaff & Wegner (2000), Annual Review of Psychology · Review · Strongest evidence
A meta-analysis of controlled studies found a small-to-moderate 'rebound' effect: suppressed thoughts come back more.
Abramowitz, Tolin & Street (2001), Clinical Psychology Review — meta-analysis · Meta-analysis · Strongest evidence
Across 31 studies, suppressed thoughts rebounded later regardless of mental load.
Wang, Hagger & Chatzisarantis (2020), Perspectives on Psychological Science — meta-analysis · Meta-analysis, 31 studies · Strongest evidence
In four experiments, ruminating on what made you angry increased anger, while distraction reduced it.
Rusting & Nolen-Hoeksema (1998), Journal of Personality and Social Psychology · Experiments · Solid evidence
In couples, anger rumination was linked to greater loneliness, which in turn predicted lower well-being for both partners.
Doğru et al. (2025), Journal of Interpersonal Violence · Dyadic cross-sectional · Early or small study
Reflecting on upsetting events from a distanced, 'fly-on-the-wall' perspective made negative emotions end sooner in daily life.
Verduyn et al. (2012), Emotion · Diary studies · Solid evidence
In a randomised study of 120 couples, a 21-minute writing exercise (seeing your conflict as a neutral person who wants the best for both) eliminated the usual decline in marital quality.
Finkel et al. (2013), Psychological Science · Randomised trial, 120 couples, 2 years · Strongest evidence
In 1,240 couples, people who used more cognitive reappraisal had less communication conflict — mainly when they weren't prone to acting rashly when upset.
Poole et al. (2025), Journal of Marital and Family Therapy · Dyadic study, 1,240 couples · Solid evidence
Under more outside stress, spouses' overall feelings about the marriage swing more with each good or bad daily moment.
Neff & Karney (2009), Journal of Personality and Social Psychology · Diary studies, 146 + 82 couples · Solid evidence
Over 4 years, outside stress changed how spouses perceived and processed their relationship, which helped explain declining marital quality.
Neff & Karney (2004), Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin · Longitudinal, 4 years · Solid evidence
Dating couples who saw each other in the most idealised, generous light were most likely to stay together and became more satisfied over a year.
Murray, Holmes & Griffin (1996), Journal of Personality and Social Psychology · Longitudinal, 1 year · Solid evidence
Newlyweds who most idealised their partner showed no decline in satisfaction over 3 years, while satisfaction dropped markedly for others.
Murray et al. (2011), Psychological Science · Longitudinal, 3 years · Solid evidence
Positive expectations protected satisfaction only when partners had good relationship skills; with poor skills, high expectations led to steeper declines.
McNulty, Karney & McNulty (2004), Journal of Personality and Social Psychology · Longitudinal, 4 years · Solid evidence
Forgiveness, kind explanations, optimism and letting things go helped in healthy marriages but were linked to worse outcomes in troubled marriages.
McNulty & Fincham (2012), American Psychologist · Review of longitudinal studies · Strongest evidence
People who anxiously expect rejection behaved in ways during conflict that drew more rejection from partners, and their relationships were more likely to break up.
Downey et al. (1998), Journal of Personality and Social Psychology · Diary + lab studies · Solid evidence
People with low self-esteem felt more or less loved depending on their success at work that day; feeling less accepted predicted lower satisfaction a year later.
Murray, Griffin, Rose et al. (2006), Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin · Diary + 1-year follow-up, 154 couples · Solid evidence
Relationship obsessive-compulsive disorder (constant intrusive doubts about the partner or relationship) is a disabling form of OCD linked to unhelpful beliefs.
Doron et al. (2016), Frontiers in Psychiatry · Clinical comparison study · Early or small study
When people performed habits, their minds were often on something unrelated — habits run on autopilot without conscious guidance.
Wood, Quinn & Kashy (2002), Journal of Personality and Social Psychology · Diary studies · Solid evidence
Habits are triggered by context cues (time, place, previous action) and change slowly, not with good intentions alone.
Wood & Neal (2007), Psychological Review · Theoretical review · Strongest evidence
Forming a new habit took an average of 66 days (range 18 to an estimated 254); missing a single day didn't undo progress.
Lally et al. (2010), European Journal of Social Psychology (BPS summary) · Real-world study, 82 people · Solid evidence
Across 94 studies, if-then plans ('if X happens, I'll do Y') had a medium-to-large effect on actually following through (d = .65).
Gollwitzer & Sheeran (2006), Advances in Experimental Social Psychology — meta-analysis (NCI summary) · Meta-analysis, 94 studies · Strongest evidence
Scheduling worry for a set time, with specific if-then plans, reduced daily worry by about 15 minutes.
McCarrick et al. (2025), Psychology & Health · Randomised trial, 186 people · Strongest evidence
Suppressing your feelings while making a sacrifice for your partner lowered well-being and satisfaction and increased thoughts of breaking up 3 months later.
Impett et al. (2012), Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin · Lab + diary + 3-month follow-up · Solid evidence
For people with a strongly interdependent ('we first') sense of self, holding back negative feelings during sacrifice felt authentic and was beneficial.
Le & Impett (2013), Psychological Science · Diary study · Solid evidence
People who wrote about their deepest feelings about their relationship for 3 days were more likely to still be together 3 months later.
Slatcher & Pennebaker (2006), Psychological Science · Randomised experiment, 86 couples · Solid evidence
Across 79 samples (16,416 people), self-compassion was strongly linked to well-being (r = .47).
Zessin et al. (2015), Applied Psychology: Health and Well-Being — meta-analysis · Meta-analysis, 79 samples · Strongest evidence
In 104 couples, self-compassionate people were described by their partners as more caring and accepting and less controlling or aggressive.
Neff & Beretvas (2013), Self and Identity (UT Austin summary) · Dyadic study, 104 couples · Solid evidence
A meta-analysis found mindfulness programs have a consistent small positive effect on couple relationship satisfaction (g = 0.21), though evidence quality is low.
Voldstad et al. (2025), Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology — meta-analysis · Meta-analysis · Strongest evidence
Note: Low certainty of evidence.
Satisfied older couples saw their spouse's behaviour during disagreements as more positive than outside observers did ('positive sentiment override').
Story et al. (2007), Psychology and Aging · Observational, 270 couples · Solid evidence
Predictors of divorce, breakup & 'compatibility'
In 124 newlywed couples, the first three minutes of a conflict discussion predicted divorce over 6 years.
Carrère & Gottman (1999), Family Process · Longitudinal, 124 couples, 6 years · Solid evidence
Couples with more negative and less positive emotion, more stubbornness, withdrawal and defensiveness had lower satisfaction, poorer health and higher risk of separation 4 years later.
Gottman & Levenson (1992), Journal of Personality and Social Psychology · Longitudinal, 73 couples · Solid evidence
In 130 newlyweds over 6 years, a husband's willingness to accept influence from his wife predicted a happy, stable marriage; criticism, defensiveness, contempt and stonewalling predicted divorce; anger itself was not destructive.
Gottman, Coan, Carrère & Swanson (1998), Journal of Marriage and Family (UW summary) · Longitudinal, 130 couples · Solid evidence
Note: Same study found classic active listening (paraphrasing) was rare in happy couples and did not predict success.
Gottman reports that stable, happy couples have about five positive interactions for every negative one during conflict.
Gottman Institute — the magic ratio · Practitioner summary of lab research · Early or small study
Machine learning across 43 couples studies from 29 labs found the strongest predictors of relationship quality were perceived partner commitment, appreciation, sexual satisfaction, perceived partner satisfaction and conflict. Personality differences added nothing beyond these.
Joel et al. (2020), Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences · Machine learning, 43 longitudinal datasets · Strongest evidence
Note: Change over time was largely unpredictable from self-reports.
A meta-analysis of 137 studies (37,761 people) found commitment, love, feeling 'merged' with the partner, and dependence were among the strongest predictors of breakup; personality measures predicted little.
Le et al. (2010), Personal Relationships — meta-analysis · Meta-analysis, 137 studies · Strongest evidence
Note: Dating (non-marital) relationships.
Across 19 samples (3,848 people), partners lower in neuroticism and higher in agreeableness, conscientiousness and extraversion were linked to higher relationship satisfaction.
Malouff et al. (2010), Journal of Research in Personality — meta-analysis · Meta-analysis, 19 samples · Strongest evidence
Note: Correlational.
A meta-analysis of 313 studies found that in existing relationships, actual similarity didn't reliably predict attraction — but feeling similar did.
Montoya, Horton & Kirchner (2008), Journal of Social and Personal Relationships — meta-analysis · Meta-analysis, 313 studies · Strongest evidence
A review of 115 longitudinal studies (45,000+ marriages) led to the vulnerability-stress-adaptation model: marriages are shaped by each partner's vulnerabilities, outside stresses and how the couple adapts.
Karney & Bradbury (1995), Psychological Bulletin — review · Review of 115 longitudinal studies · Strongest evidence
A meta-analysis of 74 studies (14,000+ people) found the demand-withdraw pattern (one pushes, the other shuts down) is common and linked to lower satisfaction, less intimacy and poorer communication — regardless of who does which role.
Schrodt, Witt & Shimkowski (2014), Communication Monographs — meta-analysis (ScienceDaily) · Meta-analysis, 74 studies · Strongest evidence
Meta-analyses found anxious and avoidant attachment are linked to lower satisfaction and commitment — and the link grows stronger the longer the relationship lasts.
Hadden, Smith & Webster (2014), Personality and Social Psychology Review — meta-analysis · Meta-analysis · Strongest evidence
In 172 newlywed couples followed 10 years, physical aggression predicted worse marital outcomes and divorce through poorer support between spouses.
Sullivan et al. (2015), Journal of Family Psychology · Longitudinal, 10 years · Solid evidence
Couples with infidelity showed more marital instability, dishonesty, arguments about trust, narcissism and time spent apart.
Atkins et al. (2005), Journal of Family Psychology · Clinical sample · Early or small study
US survey data: 20% of ever-married men and 13% of women report sex outside their marriage; 40% of those who cheated are divorced or separated vs 17% of those who didn't.
Wang (2018), Institute for Family Studies — General Social Survey analysis · National survey analysis · Solid evidence
Women's sexual desire declined more steeply over marriage than men's (accentuated by childbirth), and declines in women's desire predicted both partners' falling satisfaction.
McNulty et al. (2019), Archives of Sexual Behavior · Longitudinal, 2 studies · Solid evidence
Divorced people most often named lack of commitment, infidelity and constant arguing as major reasons; the most common 'final straws' were infidelity, domestic violence and substance use.
Scott, Rhoades, Stanley et al. (2013), Couple and Family Psychology · Interviews with divorced individuals · Early or small study
Note: Small sample from one relationship-education program.
Communication, listening & feeling unheard
In 61 couples, direct requests for change felt less successful at first but produced more real change over the next 12 months; positive hinting felt nice but produced no change.
Overall et al. (2009), Journal of Personality and Social Psychology · Longitudinal observation, 61 couples · Solid evidence
Intimacy grew from sharing and feeling responded to; disclosing emotions predicted intimacy more than sharing facts.
Laurenceau, Barrett & Pietromonaco (1998), Journal of Personality and Social Psychology · Diary studies · Solid evidence
A meta-analysis found people who open up are liked more, and people come to like those they've opened up to.
Collins & Miller (1994), Psychological Bulletin — meta-analysis · Meta-analysis · Strongest evidence
Across four experiments, being listened to with empathy and without judgment reduced speakers' anxiety and defensiveness.
Itzchakov, Kluger & Castro (2017), Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin · Experiments · Solid evidence
Feeling understood, validated and cared for was strongly and consistently linked to relationship well-being (79 couples).
Maisel, Gable & Strachman (2008), Personal Relationships · Observational, 79 couples · Solid evidence
A meta-analysis of 52 studies (19,698 people) found ignoring a partner for a phone lowers satisfaction, intimacy and responsiveness and increases conflict and jealousy.
Ni et al. (2025), Frontiers in Psychology — meta-analysis · Meta-analysis, 52 studies · Strongest evidence
Researchers describe prolonged partner ostracism (the silent treatment) as a form of psychological aggression; some victims rate it as more damaging than physical abuse.
Dvir, Beşikci & Williams (2026), Current Opinion in Psychology · Review · Solid evidence
Feeling loved, appreciated & close (incl. love languages)
Feeling appreciated makes people more appreciative of their partner; appreciative partners were more responsive and more committed over time.
Gordon et al. (2012), Journal of Personality and Social Psychology · Multi-method studies · Solid evidence
When people expressed gratitude in the lab, their partner's sense of being cared for predicted better relationship quality 6 months later.
Algoe, Fredrickson & Gable (2013), Emotion · Experiment + 6-month follow-up · Solid evidence
Couples randomly assigned to express gratitude for 5 weeks spent more time together afterwards.
Chang, Algoe et al. (2022), Scientific Reports · Randomised field experiment · Strongest evidence
A partner's expressions of gratitude protected satisfaction and commitment in insecurely attached people, helping them feel cared for months later.
Park et al. (2019), Journal of Personality and Social Psychology · Multiple studies + meta-analysis · Solid evidence
Partners who respond to good news actively and enthusiastically have relationships with more intimacy and daily marital satisfaction.
Gable et al. (2004), Journal of Personality and Social Psychology · 4 studies · Solid evidence
In a six-year newlywed follow-up, couples still married had turned toward each other's bids for attention 86% of the time; those who divorced, 33%.
Gottman Institute — turn toward instead of away · Practitioner summary of longitudinal study · Early or small study
Testing Chapman's theory in 696 adults, receiving your 'primary' love language did not predict satisfaction better than other forms; words of affirmation and quality time mattered most.
Flicker & Sancier-Barbosa (2025), Journal of Marital and Family Therapy · Survey study, 696 adults · Solid evidence
Fewer than half of people had an identifiable primary love language; relationship quality was linked to satisfaction across a wider range of loving behaviours — verbal affirmation, encouraging personal pursuits, support in hard times and accountability.
Flicker, Sancier-Barbosa & Impett (2025), Journal of Marital and Family Therapy · Survey study · Solid evidence
In three studies, 7–10 'love languages' fitted the data and predicted relationship quality better than Chapman's five.
Flicker et al. (2025), Journal of Marital and Family Therapy · 3 studies · Solid evidence
In three experiments, couples who did a novel, exciting 7-minute task together reported higher relationship quality than those doing a mundane task.
Aron et al. (2000), Journal of Personality and Social Psychology · Experiments · Solid evidence
Boredom in year seven of marriage predicted lower satisfaction nine years later (123 couples).
Tsapelas, Aron & Orbuch (2009), Psychological Science · Longitudinal, 9 years · Solid evidence
Pairs who asked each other escalating personal questions felt markedly closer than pairs who made small talk.
Aron et al. (1997), Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin (UC Berkeley summary) · Experiment · Solid evidence
Among 1,382 newlywed couples, shared leisure helped protect commitment from money stress for higher-income couples, but not for lower-income couples.
Totenhagen et al. (2024), Family Process · National longitudinal · Solid evidence
About half of older adults live in ambivalent, indifferent or aversive marriages; spouses in aversive marriages were lonelier, and good friends didn't make up for it.
Hsieh & Hawkley (2018), Journal of Social and Personal Relationships · Dyadic national data · Solid evidence
Sex, desire & physical affection
In 30,000+ people, sex was linked to happiness up to about once a week; more often wasn't linked to more happiness.
Muise, Schimmack & Impett (2016), Social Psychological and Personality Science (CBS summary) · 3 studies · Solid evidence
Note: Correlational.
People motivated to meet a partner's sexual needs were more willing to have sex even when their desire was low, and both partners were more satisfied.
Day, Muise, Joel & Impett (2015), Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin · 3 studies incl. 21-day diary · Solid evidence
Having sex just to avoid relationship problems was especially harmful in longer relationships or where sex was infrequent.
Kim, Muise & Impett (2018), Journal of Social and Personal Relationships (PsyPost) · Survey + diary · Solid evidence
A reassuring 'not tonight' (expressing love and attraction) was linked to greater satisfaction; hostile rejection to lower — partly through feeling cared for.
Kim et al. (2020), Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin · 4 studies incl. daily diary · Solid evidence
A meta-analysis of 93 studies (38,499 people) linked sexual communication with relationship (r = .37) and sexual satisfaction (r = .43); quality of communication mattered more than frequency.
Mallory (2022), Journal of Family Psychology — meta-analysis · Meta-analysis, 93 studies · Strongest evidence
Across 48 studies, couples' sexual communication was linked to better sexual function, including desire, arousal and orgasm.
Mallory, Stanton & Handy (2019), Journal of Sex Research — meta-analysis · Meta-analysis, 48 studies · Strongest evidence
In married couples, gaps between desired and actual sexual frequency were linked to lower satisfaction, less stability and more conflict.
Willoughby, Farero & Busby (2014), Archives of Sexual Behavior · Dyadic study · Solid evidence
In new-parent couples, bigger desire gaps were linked to lower sexual satisfaction; couples who matched at higher desire were most satisfied.
Rosen et al. (2018), Journal of Sex Research · Dyadic study · Solid evidence
Basson's model describes how, in long-term relationships, many women's desire is responsive — it can emerge after closeness and arousal begin, rather than appearing spontaneously first.
Basson (2000), Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy · Clinical model · Early or small study
Across three studies, affectionate touch between partners was linked to greater psychological well-being — even for people who usually prefer distance.
Debrot et al. (2021), Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin · 3 studies · Solid evidence
Affectionate touch led married couples to do more positive activities together, in a diary study and an experiment.
Jakubiak, Fuentes & Feeney (2023), Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin · Diary + experiment · Solid evidence
Doing new, self-expanding activities together was linked to higher sexual desire and satisfaction, and the benefit lasted over time.
Muise et al. (2019), Journal of Personality and Social Psychology · 3 studies incl. experiment · Solid evidence
In 863 US adults, frequent kissing was linked to healthier cholesterol and triglycerides, partly through lower stress.
Floyd (2023), Health Communication · National sample · Early or small study
Note: Correlational.
Betrayal, trust, forgiveness & apology
In a clinical trial, couples recovering from an affair that was disclosed started more distressed but improved more in satisfaction than other couples.
Atkins et al. (2005), Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology · Clinical trial subsample · Solid evidence
In a community sample, infidelity couples kept improving through therapy and 6 months later were no longer distinguishable from other couples.
Atkins et al. (2010), Journal of Family Psychology · Community therapy sample · Solid evidence
In a small treatment study (6 couples), an integrative program to understand the affair left most couples less distressed and injured partners more forgiving.
Gordon, Baucom & Snyder (2004), Journal of Marital and Family Therapy · Replicated case studies (6 couples) · Early or small study
Affair recovery is described in three stages: impact, meaning (how it happened) and moving on (forgiveness, whether or not the couple stays together).
Baucom, Snyder & Gordon (2009), Helping Couples Get Past the Affair (Guilford) · Clinical treatment model · Early or small study
A meta-analysis found forgiveness is most strongly linked to empathy (r = .51), apology (r = .42), perceived intent (r = -.49) and anger (r = -.41) — situational factors matter more than personality.
Fehr, Gelfand & Nag (2010), Psychological Bulletin — meta-analysis · Meta-analysis · Strongest evidence
A meta-analysis found structured forgiveness interventions help people forgive; longer interventions worked better.
Wade et al. (2014), Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology — meta-analysis · Meta-analysis · Strongest evidence
A wife's forgiveness predicted better conflict resolution a year later.
Fincham, Beach & Davila (2007), Journal of Family Psychology · Longitudinal · Solid evidence
In 755 people, the most important parts of an apology were acknowledging responsibility, then offering to repair; asking for forgiveness mattered least.
Lewicki, Polin & Lount (2016), Negotiation and Conflict Management Research (ScienceDaily) · 2 experiments · Solid evidence
A review notes infidelity can cause deep stress and heartache and, in some cases, be traumatic.
Rokach & Chan (2023), International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health · Narrative review · Early or small study
A classic review found social support buffers the harmful effects of stress, especially when stress is high.
Cohen & Wills (1985), Psychological Bulletin · Review · Strongest evidence
A meta-analysis found insecure attachment — high anxiety about closeness or avoidance of it — was linked to more marital infidelity.
Ghiasi, Rasoal, Haseli et al. (2024), Heliyon — meta-analysis · Systematic review & meta-analysis · Strongest evidence
Note: Small effect; most insecurely attached people do not cheat.
Among 154 people betrayed by a spouse, seeing the partner genuinely want to reconcile helped build empathy and a decision to forgive, which then grew into emotional forgiveness.
Chi, Tang, Worthington et al. (2019), Journal of Clinical Psychology · Survey study · Solid evidence
Money
In 4,500+ couples, money arguments predicted divorce more strongly than other conflicts, regardless of income; they were more intense and slower to recover from.
Dew, Britt & Huston (2012), Family Relations (ScienceDaily) · National longitudinal · Solid evidence
In home diaries of 100 couples, money conflicts weren't the most frequent, but they were more pervasive, problematic and recurrent, and stayed unresolved despite more problem-solving attempts.
Papp, Cummings & Goeke-Morey (2009), Family Relations · Diary study, 100 couples · Solid evidence
In a randomised study of 230 engaged/newlywed couples, those who merged into a joint account kept relationship quality steady over 2 years while others declined.
Olson, Rick, Small & Finkel (2023), Journal of Consumer Research (Kellogg Insight) · Randomised trial · Strongest evidence
Note: Not for relationships with financial control or abuse.
In 254 couples followed 27 years, midlife financial and marital stress predicted later-life health problems and loneliness.
Wickrama & O'Neal (2021), Journal of Aging and Health · Longitudinal, 27 years · Solid evidence
A review describes how the family we grow up in shapes our money knowledge and habits.
Gudmunson & Danes (2011), Journal of Family and Economic Issues · Review of 100 articles · Early or small study
Children, parenting & becoming parents
A meta-analysis of 37 studies found small declines in satisfaction after a first baby — but couples without children declined similarly over the same time.
Mitnick, Heyman & Smith Slep (2009), Journal of Family Psychology — meta-analysis · Meta-analysis · Strongest evidence
Over 8 years, parents showed a sudden, lasting drop in relationship functioning after a birth; childless couples declined more gradually.
Doss et al. (2009), Journal of Personality and Social Psychology · Longitudinal, 8 years · Solid evidence
A meta-analysis of 49 studies found a medium drop in marital satisfaction in the first year after birth that continues into the second; partners' declines are linked.
Bogdan, Turliuc & Candel (2022), Frontiers in Psychology — meta-analysis · Meta-analysis, 49 studies · Strongest evidence
Among newlyweds who became parents, husbands' fondness and both partners' awareness of each other's lives predicted stable or rising satisfaction; negativity and 'chaotic' lives predicted decline.
Shapiro, Gottman & Carrère (2000), Journal of Family Psychology · Longitudinal, 6 years · Solid evidence
A transition-to-parenthood workshop reduced husbands' contempt and increased positive emotion during conflict after the birth.
Shapiro, Gottman & Fink (2015), Couple and Family Psychology · Controlled intervention study · Solid evidence
A meta-analysis found marital satisfaction and co-parenting quality are moderately strongly linked (r = .41).
Ronaghan et al. (2024), Journal of Family Psychology — meta-analysis · Meta-analysis · Strongest evidence
A meta-analysis linked parents' conflict with children's anxiety — especially open, hostile conflict rather than cooperative disagreement.
Ran et al. (2021), Journal of Youth and Adolescence — meta-analysis · Meta-analysis · Strongest evidence
In divorced families, parents' conflict affected children's problems partly through harsher, less supportive parenting; using children as go-betweens was a particular risk.
van Dijk et al. (2020), Clinical Psychology Review — meta-analysis · Meta-analysis · Strongest evidence
In new parents, on days one partner shared good news about their day or the child, both felt closer and mothers felt more co-parenting support.
Le et al. (2022), Journal of Family Psychology · Daily diary · Solid evidence
Across 154 trials of parenting programs, praise and natural or logical consequences were the techniques most linked to reducing disruptive child behaviour.
Leijten, Gardner, Melendez-Torres et al. (2019), Journal of the American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry · Meta-analyses, 154 trials · Strongest evidence
A meta-analysis found parenting stress was moderately linked to lower marital quality among parents of children with disabilities.
Liu, Guan, Zhang et al. (2026), Research in Developmental Disabilities · Meta-analysis · Strongest evidence
Following families of children with autism or developmental delays to age 30, about 36% experienced parental divorce, most often in the early years and the teenage years.
Bahri, Sterrett & Lord (2023), Journal of Family Psychology · 28-year longitudinal study · Solid evidence
In-laws, household roles & the mental load
In 164 midlife couples, imbalance in how each spouse supported the other's parents was linked to lower marital satisfaction.
Lee, Kim, Cichy & Fingerman (2020), Gerontology · Dyadic study · Solid evidence
When future in-laws had their own contact and positive feelings before the wedding, ties were stronger afterwards; negative expectations predicted negative relationships later.
Fingerman et al. (2012), Research in Human Development · Longitudinal · Solid evidence
In a 26-year study, husbands' closeness to the wife's parents was linked to lower divorce risk, and wives' closeness to the husband's parents to higher risk — possibly through interference.
Orbuch — 26-year study (WBUR) · Longitudinal (media summary) · Early or small study
In 452 women and 156 couples, women were most satisfied when mental load was shared; it mattered more than physical housework.
Klein et al. (2026), Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin · 2 studies · Solid evidence
Mental load involves four steps: anticipating needs, identifying options, deciding and monitoring; women did more of the anticipating and monitoring.
Daminger (2019), American Sociological Review (Harvard) · Interviews, 35 couples · Early or small study
About 21% of 622 dual-earner mothers were 'gatekeepers' (rigid standards, reluctance to hand over) and did about five more hours of family work a week.
Allen & Hawkins (1999), Journal of Marriage and the Family · Survey, 622 mothers · Solid evidence
In 178 new-parent couples, whether infant care felt fair depended on each partner's overall contributions across the relationship, not just baby care.
DeMaris & Mahoney (2017), Journal of Marriage and Family · Longitudinal · Solid evidence
A meta-analysis found willingness to sacrifice benefits both partners, but costly sacrifices hurt well-being — satisfaction with the sacrifice matters most.
Righetti et al. (2020), Psychological Bulletin — meta-analysis · Meta-analysis · Strongest evidence
Outside stress, sleep, hunger & coping together
A meta-analysis of 72 samples (17,856 people) found coping with stress together strongly predicts relationship satisfaction (r = .45), across genders, ages and countries.
Falconier et al. (2015), Clinical Psychology Review — meta-analysis · Meta-analysis, 72 samples · Strongest evidence
Stress experienced by both partners strongly determined how their behaviour and qualities affected changes in satisfaction.
McNulty, Meltzer, Neff et al. (2021), Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences · Longitudinal · Solid evidence
After poor sleep, couples had more conflict, read each other's emotions less accurately and resolved disagreements less well.
Gordon & Chen (2013), Social Psychological and Personality Science (ScienceDaily) · Diary + lab study · Solid evidence
Relationship quality and sleep affect each other in both directions.
Troxel et al. (2007), Sleep Medicine Reviews · Review · Strongest evidence
In 107 married couples over 21 days, lower blood glucose was linked to more anger and aggression toward a spouse.
Bushman et al. (2014), Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences · 21-day study, 107 couples · Solid evidence
An 18-hour coping-skills program improved marital quality, but the effect faded after 2 years — boosters help.
Bodenmann et al. (2006), Behavior Modification · Controlled study · Solid evidence
What actually helps: programs & therapy
In a randomised trial, the 8-hour online OurRelationship program improved relationship satisfaction (d = 0.69) and reduced depression and anxiety.
Doss et al. (2016), Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology · Randomised trial · Strongest evidence
Gains from the OurRelationship program were maintained 12 months later.
Doss et al. (2019), Behavior Therapy · Follow-up of RCT · Strongest evidence
A meta-analysis found relationship education programs improved relationship quality (d ≈ .30–.36) and communication skills (d ≈ .43–.45).
Hawkins et al. (2008), Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology — meta-analysis · Meta-analysis · Strongest evidence
Brief relationship education gave a moderate boost to couples with low satisfaction (d = 0.50), but little change for already-happy couples.
Halford et al. (2015), Behavior Therapy · Randomised trial + replication · Strongest evidence
In a trial of 134 seriously distressed couples, about half were clinically improved 5 years after couple therapy.
Christensen et al. (2010), Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology · Randomised trial, 5-year follow-up · Strongest evidence
A Cochrane review found couple therapy improved depression as much as individual therapy and reduced relationship distress more.
Barbato & D'Avanzo (2020), Family Process — Cochrane review · Cochrane meta-analysis · Strongest evidence
In 307 couples starting therapy, feeling supported by one's partner was linked to higher satisfaction and willingness to invest in the relationship.
Labonté, Dugal, Lafontaine et al. (2022), Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy · Dyadic study, 307 clinical couples · Solid evidence
Safety: aggression, control & when to get help
A review of 51 papers from 28 countries found real or suspected infidelity and romantic jealousy are consistently linked to violence against women.
Pichon et al. (2020), International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health · Mixed-methods systematic review · Strongest evidence
A Cochrane review found asking women about partner violence in healthcare increases identification, though effects on later outcomes are unclear.
O'Doherty et al. (2015), Cochrane Database of Systematic Reviews · Cochrane review · Strongest evidence
A meta-analysis of 45 studies found coercive control is moderately linked to PTSD and depression — as strongly as psychological abuse.
Lohmann, Cowlishaw, Ney et al. (2024), Trauma, Violence & Abuse · Systematic review & meta-analysis · Strongest evidence
A review concluded coercive control is not a type of violence but a pattern of domination; the level of control predicts later harms including violence after separation.
Stark & Hester (2019), Violence Against Women · Review · Solid evidence
A meta-analysis of 27 studies (65,330 people) linked adverse childhood experiences with both using and suffering partner violence.
Zhu, Exner-Cortens, Dobson et al. (2024), Development and Psychopathology · Meta-analysis · Strongest evidence
Faith, culture & different backgrounds
In California divorce filings (1966–1971), couples who shared a religion had been married longer before filing; couples with no religious affiliation filed earliest.
Maneker & Rankin (1993), Journal of Divorce & Remarriage · Large records study (older data, one U.S. state) · Early or small study
Note: Old data from one state; shows a link, not a cause.
In couples followed across the birth of their first child, seeing the marriage as sacred and sharing spiritual intimacy predicted more positive and less negative behaviour when researchers watched them talk.
Kusner, Mahoney, Pargament et al. (2014), Journal of Family Psychology · Longitudinal observational study · Solid evidence
In 67 newlyweds, seeing their sexual relationship as sacred early in marriage predicted more frequent sex and greater sexual and marital satisfaction a year later.
Hernandez-Kane & Mahoney (2018), Journal of Family Psychology · Longitudinal study (small sample) · Early or small study
Interviewing 30 interfaith couples, researchers found those who did well supported each other's practices, focused on shared beliefs, built religious understanding, respected each other's choices and put the marriage first (the 'AFFIRM' model).
Hendricks, Dollahite, Marks et al. (2026), Family Process · Qualitative interview study · Early or small study
Note: Small qualitative study; describes what worked, does not test it.
In an experiment, people assigned to pray daily for their partner for four weeks reported less romantic behaviour outside the relationship than those who simply thought positive thoughts about their partner.
Fincham, Lambert & Beach (2010), Journal of Personality and Social Psychology · Three studies incl. a randomised experiment (mostly young adults) · Solid evidence
Note: Participants were mostly young adults in dating relationships.
In two samples of married couples, praying for one's spouse predicted greater forgiveness — reported by the spouse — even after accounting for general religiousness.
Fincham & May (2017), Journal of Family Psychology · Dyadic studies, 180 married couples · Solid evidence
In a large U.S. national sample, people in Black/White interracial couples reported more discrimination and stress, more depressive symptoms and worse self-rated health than White couples — differences linked to that stress.
Pittman, Dush, Pratt et al. (2024), Journal of Family Issues · Large national survey (Add Health) · Solid evidence
Blended families & step-parenting
A review of stepfamily research — including a 20-year study of 112 stepfamily couples — found parenting stress was a particularly strong predictor of divorce in remarriages.
DeLongis & Zwicker (2017), Current Opinion in Psychology · Review incl. 20-year longitudinal study · Solid evidence
A meta-analysis of 56 studies found a warmer stepparent–child relationship was linked to children's better psychological and school wellbeing and fewer behaviour problems.
Jensen (2022), Journal of Family Nursing — systematic review & meta-analysis · Meta-analysis, 56 studies · Strongest evidence
In 1,161 remarried couples, wives' financial distress was linked to turning down their partner's sexual advances; feeling engaged as a couple mattered for wives' desire.
Turner, Crapo, Kopystynska et al. (2022), Frontiers in Psychology · Dyadic survey, 1,161 couples · Solid evidence
Mental health: depression, anxiety, ADHD & trauma
Weighing observational, genetic and treatment studies together, researchers concluded relationship distress is a causal risk factor for depression.
Whisman, Sbarra & Beach (2021), Annual Review of Clinical Psychology · Review triangulating many study designs · Strongest evidence
In 1,869 middle-aged and older couples, marital conflict predicted later depressive symptoms, and depressive symptoms predicted later conflict — for both partners and both genders.
Whisman & Uebelacker (2009), Psychology and Aging · Longitudinal, 1,869 couples · Solid evidence
In a U.S. national sample followed for 10 years, frequent negative interactions with a partner were linked to developing generalized anxiety disorder.
Whisman & Collazos (2023), Journal of Anxiety Disorders · 10-year national longitudinal study · Solid evidence
People with anxiety disorders perceived more criticism in couple conversations, were more upset by it — and were also more critical themselves.
Porter, Chambless, Keefe et al. (2019), Behavior Therapy · Observational lab study · Early or small study
A review found adults with ADHD tend to have shorter and more conflict-filled romantic relationships, and identified specific, workable risk factors.
Wymbs, Canu, Sacchetti & Ranson (2021), Journal of Marital and Family Therapy · Review · Solid evidence
Married adults with ADHD rated their marriages and families as less healthy than control adults did; more of their spouses' scores fell in the 'maladjusted' range, and spouses described compensating for their partner's difficulties.
Eakin, Minde, Hechtman et al. (2004), Journal of Attention Disorders · Controlled comparison (small sample) · Early or small study
In young couples, when a partner had combined-type ADHD, conflict conversations had more negativity and less positivity, matching lower satisfaction; inattentive-type couples looked like other couples.
Canu, Tabor, Michael et al. (2014), Journal of Marital and Family Therapy · Observational lab study · Early or small study
In a randomised trial in JAMA, couples where one partner had PTSD who did a 15-session cognitive-behavioural couple therapy saw PTSD symptoms fall and relationship satisfaction rise compared with a wait list, holding at 3 months.
Monson, Fredman, Macdonald et al. (2012), JAMA · Randomised controlled trial (40 couples) · Strongest evidence
A Cochrane review found too few trials to be certain, but early randomised trials suggest couple-based therapies may reduce PTSD symptoms.
Suomi, Evans, Rodgers et al. (2019), Cochrane Database of Systematic Reviews · Cochrane systematic review · Strongest evidence
Note: Evidence still limited.
Pornography, online infidelity, phones & jealousy
A meta-analysis of 50 studies (about 50,000 people) linked pornography use to lower relationship and sexual satisfaction for men; for women the link was not significant.
Wright, Tokunaga, Kraus & Klann (2017), Human Communication Research — meta-analysis · Meta-analysis, 50 studies · Strongest evidence
Note: Correlational: unhappy relationships may lead to more porn use as well as the other way round.
Following 1,234 people for 20 months, watching porn alone was linked to poorer relationship quality for men (but not women), while watching together was linked to more intimacy — and both were linked to more psychological aggression.
Huntington, Markman & Rhoades (2021), Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy · Longitudinal national sample · Solid evidence
In a study of couples, men's solo porn use was linked to lower relationship satisfaction for both partners and lower female desire; shared use was linked to higher sexual satisfaction for both.
Willoughby & Leonhardt (2020), Journal of Sex Research · Dyadic couples study · Solid evidence
A meta-analysis found that feeling 'addicted' to porn is often better explained by a clash between a person's values and their behaviour (moral incongruence) than by how much they watch.
Grubbs, Perry, Wilt & Reid (2019), Archives of Sexual Behavior · Systematic review & meta-analysis · Strongest evidence
In 625 women, believing a male partner used porn more often — especially with negative attitudes to porn — was linked to more distress and lower relationship and sexual satisfaction.
Ruffing, Brody, Sandage et al. (2024), Journal of Sex Research · Survey, 625 women · Solid evidence
In 146 people's accounts, honest conversations about porn use — even uncomfortable ones — often left couples feeling emotionally closer.
Engelkamp, Lindberg, Córdova et al. (2024), Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy · Qualitative study · Early or small study
In a large sample of men, how often they watched porn did not predict their sexual or relationship satisfaction, and had weak or no link to erectile problems; frequent masturbation was linked to lower satisfaction.
Rowland, Castleman, Bacys et al. (2023), International Journal of Impotence Research · Large online survey · Solid evidence
In 406 married people, lower marital quality went with more loneliness, and loneliness was linked to more internet infidelity.
Isanejad & Bagheri (2018), Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking · Cross-sectional survey · Early or small study
In 329 married people, lack of trust predicted conflict and thoughts of breaking up, partly through checking a partner's phone.
Arikewuyo, Eluwole & Özad (2021), Psychological Reports · Cross-sectional survey · Early or small study
In two studies of young adults, jealousy triggered by a partner's Facebook activity was linked to physical or psychological aggression, especially when both partners were jealous.
Daspe, Vaillancourt-Morel, Lussier et al. (2018), Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking · Two studies incl. dyadic sample · Solid evidence
Health, illness, menopause & sexual difficulties
A meta-analysis of couples living with chronic illness found each partner's way of coping together was linked to both their own and their partner's satisfaction.
Hou, Falconier, Tam et al. (2025), Clinical Psychology Review — meta-analysis · Meta-analysis (actor–partner model) · Strongest evidence
A network meta-analysis of couple programs in cancer found mindfulness-based programs most promising for improving partners' relationship quality.
Gao, Zhang, Zhang et al. (2025), European Journal of Oncology Nursing · Network meta-analysis · Strongest evidence
Note: Low certainty of evidence.
Among caregivers of people with cancer, a better relationship with the person cared for was linked to lower emotional burden.
Fenton, Keating, Ornstein et al. (2022), Cancer · Survey study of caregivers · Solid evidence
A systematic review and meta-analysis confirmed an association between erectile dysfunction and depression, without determining which comes first.
Liu, Zhang, Wang et al. (2018), Journal of Sexual Medicine · Systematic review & meta-analysis · Strongest evidence
Among women whose partners had premature ejaculation, the most common source of distress was the man's focus on performance and lack of attention to her (47.6%), more than duration; 22.8% said it had previously ended a relationship.
Burri, Giuliano, McMahon & Porst (2014), Journal of Sexual Medicine · International survey of female partners · Solid evidence
A couple-based study concluded premature ejaculation is a shared condition shaped by both partners' health, and recommended couple-based counselling and lifestyle change.
Doğan, Şahin, Yazıcı et al. (2026), World Journal of Urology · Cross-sectional couples study · Early or small study
A meta-analysis of 13 randomised trials found counselling improved marital and sexual satisfaction in couples facing infertility.
Alirezaei, Taghipour, Latifnejad Roudsari (2022), International Journal of Reproductive Biomedicine · Meta-analysis, 13 RCTs · Strongest evidence
In an international survey of men whose partners were going through menopause, most of those affected by her symptoms said the symptoms affected the relationship, and most discussed symptoms with her.
Parish, Faubion, Weinberg et al. (2019), Menopause — the MATE survey · International survey of male partners · Solid evidence
Alcohol, drugs & gambling
A meta-analysis found behavioural couples therapy beat individual treatment for alcohol and drug problems, improving substance use and relationship satisfaction at follow-up.
Powers, Vedel & Emmelkamp (2008), Clinical Psychology Review — meta-analysis · Meta-analysis · Strongest evidence
Following newlyweds, couples where one partner drank heavily and the other did not became less satisfied with the marriage over time.
Homish & Leonard (2007), Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology · Longitudinal newlywed study · Solid evidence
Among wives of men with alcohol dependence at one clinic, 65% had a psychiatric disorder (43% major depression), and marital satisfaction was low.
Kishor, Pandit & Raguram (2013), Indian Journal of Psychiatry · Clinic-based study · Early or small study
A meta-analysis found problem gambling and partner violence often occur together, alongside anger problems and alcohol or drug use.
Dowling, Suomi, Jackson et al. (2016), Trauma, Violence & Abuse · Systematic review & meta-analysis · Strongest evidence
Life changes: moving, loneliness, work, retirement, grief
Across 148 studies (308,849 people), stronger social relationships were linked to a 50% higher likelihood of survival — comparable to well-known health risks.
Holt-Lunstad, Smith & Layton (2010), PLoS Medicine — meta-analysis · Meta-analysis, 148 studies · Strongest evidence
In adults who had recently moved, it took about 50 hours together to become casual friends, about 90 hours to become friends, and over 200 hours to become close friends.
Hall (2018), Journal of Social and Personal Relationships · Two studies (355 recently-moved adults; 112 students) · Solid evidence
In older married couples, a cynical, hostile outlook was linked to loneliness — for wives partly through having fewer friends.
Segel-Karpas & Ermer (2021), Journals of Gerontology: Psychological Sciences · Dyadic study · Solid evidence
In 45 couples who moved abroad, the accompanying spouse adjusted better when both partners let some conflicts go during the move.
van Erp, Giebels, van der Zee & van Duijn (2011), Anxiety, Stress & Coping · Longitudinal study (small sample) · Early or small study
In 172 couples at the empty-nest stage, each partner's stress level shaped both spouses' marital quality.
Bouchard (2018), International Journal of Aging & Human Development · Dyadic study, 172 couples · Solid evidence
In 164 retirees, financial strain, lack of daily structure and purpose shaped wellbeing and, through it, marital satisfaction.
Higginbottom, Barling & Kelloway (1993), Psychology and Aging · Survey with modelling · Early or small study
A meta-analysis found social support — especially from the workplace — was linked to less conflict between work and family life.
French, Dumani, Allen & Shockley (2018), Psychological Bulletin — meta-analysis · Meta-analysis · Strongest evidence
Re-analysing major life stressors (such as bereavement, divorce or job loss), researchers found bouncing back unaffected is less common than often claimed.
Infurna & Luthar (2016), Perspectives on Psychological Science · Re-analysis of longitudinal data · Solid evidence
In over 100,000 Finnish married couples, losing a child only modestly raised the risk of divorce — the common belief that most such marriages end is not supported.
Finnäs, Rostila & Saarela (2018), Population Studies · Register study, 100,000+ couples · Solid evidence
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